How to recover from a broken heart

Healing a broken heart takes time, and it is important to take the time to enter into a new relationship wholeheartedly. But for now, heal the heart.

This is the first of three articles with many tips on heartbreak. Today it is about taking time for yourself, then it is about understanding why it happened and finally it is about rebuilding your life. Here is how to recover slowly but surely from a broken heart. Get on the road. If necessary, book an escort for an evening or have an erotic massage.

Advice for the broken-hearted: take time for yourself

1. Take time for yourself. You have probably been in a relationship for some time or have been thinking about that person for months. But now is the time to take a step back, review your life and then move on. We all have setbacks. The way you deal with them shows who you are.

• Take a weekend to do something you really enjoy. Whether it is skiing, cooking or going out with friends, make sure you have happy people around you and do things that make you happy.
• Write down how you feel in a diary.  Writing down feelings can be a good way to get rid of them. Write about everything that comes into your mind. You will feel much better afterwards.
• Do not be afraid to be sad, to cry or to get angry: it is normal with a broken heart. Processing your own pain is part of the healing process of a broken heart. Allow yourself to grieve.

Remove all memories of this person from your daily life. If you cannot pretend that this person never existed, you will temporarily forget how important they were to you and how much they broke your heart.

Go through your house and delete all photos, letters and other mementos of this person. If you have kept a diary in which you have already written about this person, start a new one. It is a symbolic new beginning and an important step.
Erasing is different from destroying. Do not burn or destroy anything to do with him or her unless you are sure you no longer want anything to do with the other person. When you are old and have a loving relationship with someone who loves us, these things remind us of what we have gone through to get where we are now.

3. Besides our normal life, we also have an online life. Disconnect from that person on all the social media you use.

If you want to write to them, create a fake e-mail account and send e-mails to that account. That way you can put all your pain into words and write alone without your ex reading it.

4. Exercise and eat healthy. Physical activity increases serotonin levels in the brain, which acts as a natural antidepressant and improves mood - a great remedy for heartbreak. It is OK to eat unhealthy and tasty things now and then, but it is better to eat healthy, with lots of fruit and vegetables. This, too, will make you feel better.

5. try to avoid the other person as much as possible. It is usually difficult, but if you get rid of the other person, you signal to your feelings and your body that there are many other people who deserve your attention. Why not give them a chance?

• If you are at school with the person in question or see them at work, get out of their way as much as possible. Do not have lunch with the same group or in the same room, do not sit in the same project groups. Try to be as unobtrusive as possible when this person is around.
• Avoid impromptu meetings. Know where this person often goes. For example, if this person does sports on Saturday mornings, you should only go there during the week.
• Be nice if you meet your counterpart. Then do not be mean or unpleasant. Say hello as you would to an acquaintance, maybe have a short impersonal chat and then move on. The best message you can give the other person is that you have a fun and meaningful life even without them.

6. stay optimistic. Easier said than done, but if you are feeling very negative and thinking about the past, try to get over it. Think about everything you have now and how happy you are with it.

Smile as often as you can. You feel good and look good with a smile on your face. Read good books and meet nice friends.

Again, healing a broken heart takes time. However, there is a quick solution, which you can find here.

Next time: the second step to healing a broken heart: understand how it happened and forgive.

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